(I wrote this on March of 2008 and my thoughts haven't changed.)
Mi Elgnis (iM singlE) hehe. Get it!?
Well, I’ve been wanting to post this blog for awhile now, but I didn’t before, because I was kinda thinking maybe I’m too young…well, I now, don’t think I am. Many, of my friends are surprised I don’t have a boyfriend yet. My besties aren’t surprised at all, because of my strict parents. Well, I’m writing this blog to show you it’s not 100% my parents won’t let me. I too, want to wait and see what (and who) God has planned for me.
My friends also think my life stinks, because I’m not “taken” in this dark-”lonely” world. They think being “taken” makes this world a million times better. I most highly doubt it! It’s just more drama that we don’t need. (especially if it’s not the right person) AND it’s a distraction from the one who you need the most…God.
Listen to me, (This is the way I look at it)
Singleness is NOT a waste of time!!
It’s a time that God has set aside, especially for us young ladies, to make her into what He wants her to become.
Singleness is a time in which a woman is to cultivate the virtues that pertain to being a woman of God, so that she can offer to her future husband. (Same with you boys with your future wives)
Ladies, Guys, listen up…
Would it not be a terrible thing to finally meet the man (or for the guys…woman) who is to become your future husband (or wife) only to find out that he (or she) has used their singleness to serve God and to prepare himself (or herself) to be a better husband (or wife) for you!?
I personally, think it would be amazing!!
There are 3 MAJOR lies: (I’m still talking to the guys here also)
1. If you don’t have someone, there’s something wrong with you.
2. The single girl should be dating, as though looking for a husband were the same as shopping in a mall.
3. The single woman should be giving her affections away indiscriminately, so that she may be more “experienced” and know what to do when she finally finds the man of her choice.
Ladies, Guys, it’s a lie and an affront to God to say that experience is the best teacher, when in fact it’s God who’s the best teacher!! And though that the world’s motto is, “live and learn”. The Bible’s advice is, “learn and live”. YOU don’t need to be experienced, you only need to be knowledgeable of what God has said and be obedient to it.
You shouldn’t be looking for the man (or woman) of YOUR CHOICE, but you should be waiting on the man (or woman) of GOD’S CHOICE.
And when he (or she) comes, it’ll not be past experience that will make your marriage work, but love, purity, and Godliness.
We should hide our faces from the ways of this wicked world and look upon only those things that God has placed in the path He has prepared for us. God knows exactly what you need and He even knows the desires of your heart better than you do!
God’s love surpasses. He loves you and has someone special for you for the future.
Girls, He doesn’t want you to be looking for your husband, He wants to bring him to you, and probably at a time you least expect it.
I found that there are two primary reasons why someone “desperately” needs someone else...
First of all, it’s because they don’t know God as they should.
Does that sound harsh?
TELL ME…
IS GOD NOT THE GOD OF ALL COMFORT!?
IS NOT CHRIST THE EXALTED LORD WHO FILLS ALL THINGS EVERYWHERE!?
Then why do we complain about how empty we feel? Could it be that God extends our time of singleness so that we might find our life in Him and learn to be complete in Him!?
If we are not filled by God now and completed in Christ in the present, then not even marriage made in heaven will be able to change our emptiness.
The second reason for “desperately” needing someone in our lives is plain selfishness, when we need someone in order to feel loved, or when we need someone so that our feelings of loneliness might dissipate, then we are wanting marriage for all the wrong reasons.
Marriage shouldn’t be looked upon as an opportunity to have our needs met, but as an opportunity to meet the needs of another. If we haven’t learned to take our needs to God, then we will probably overwhelm our husbands with our own needs and be unaware of his.
Being single is a time to learn of God and of ourselves; a time to discover who we are in Christ, and to grow in Christ likeness. It’s a time to be zealous for good works and involved in ministering to others.
Being single should an enjoyable time, not depressing!!
It’s sad when a woman ( or man) now married who regrets what she (or he) could have been and done with her (or his) life while single. All was lost for the sake of hurrying to be married without consideration for the plan or work of God.
You may think, “Wow, Priscilla is only a 14 year old. She shouldn’t be thinking of marriage at her age.”
I totally agree. I am young. But I know people (even a few of my friends) who needed to here this.
Maybe even YOU needed to here this!
I did. I needed encouragement. No one encouraged me to wait and prepare. (except for God and once in awhile my parents)
I feel as though He actually wanted me to write this blog.
So there it is.
And single girls and guys, my prayer for everyone is that they might enjoy their time in spite of all the lies of the world, that they might be demanding and not settle for anything less than the perfect will of God.
That they might wait patiently on God who's the Giver of every good and perfect gift.
Ladies, Guys, remember…
Use whatever God deems necessary to make you beautiful (or handsome) on the inside and out!
With ♥,
Ella
